#moray #peru - like was I really just here!? I think I take pics bc I can’t take it all in so I stow it away for later.
And again that’s why #poetry is the only thing that encapsulates.
I’m learning to find the wild but also soft things like #victoriaerickson says.
Sweet people have been difficult to come across in my life sometimes but I’m calling in the ones who can be vulnerable and validating and use their sweetest to nurture and protect me instead of being more protective the ones who’ve harmed me.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe we all deserve compassion and understanding but I’m starting to see the imbalance in those scales is the injustice in the world and in our hearts.
To offer compassion to the broken ones who harm, yes, bc hurt ppl hurt ppl
But we forget
How many hurt people choose healing and then try to love those hurt ppl and get wounded all over again - bc that’s what love does - and that’s what we’re born to do - and there’s nothing wrong with that but again the victim gets shamed like “well, you chose into that” yes, in some ways, and really though? Why do we choose such unsupportive lingo and call it wisdom? Yes we all have choices (when we are not acting out of #trauma mind body which happens to be a vast majority of us) and it CAN be empowering to some who have not discovered this but it’s often condescending and dismissive once again, to those believing in their partners as a good partner should - naive maybe - lacking intuition - maybe - trusting others’ judgement over theirs maybe - or maybe they’re just working on compromise, communication and reciprocal relationships - choosing to risk love is courageous.
and instead of saying “wow, I’m so sorry you were hurt again” we all too often say “well you know it’s not about you it’s about them” or “they’re just traumatized and made mistakes” sure AND please, collectively, let’s learn to FIRST support the victims.
Sure empower the victims but if you go right to “correcting their view and helping them understand” you’ve misunderstood and bypassed their very real pain and grief inadvertently saying “here’s how you can get over that” when often they already know and all they need is your loving witness to their grief.
There is beauty in the fixing of our thoughts and minds and awareness for sure, I teach about of this and appreciate so many trying to help in their ways but we never know what someone needs so #1 ask, #2 do your work to know what it is so you can tell ppl when they ask (or if they don’t you can express that boundary clearly and kindly ) and please
in the name of the next 18 mos of #aries north node and #libra south node aka balancing the arc of relating and self power;)
Let’s start with #compassion for #victims and lean heavier on that than the compassion we have for victimizers.
Don’t come at me with your “there’s no right and wrong” quotes cuz that’s another tool of #spiritual and #narcissticabuse in the names of harms there is #justice - there are n fact #right and #wrong and while again we all deserve to be heard and understood and #forgiven
Otherwise #forgiveness too is forced onto victims and if they are unwilling or incapable they are #shamed and we must be through with this narrative if we wish to heal ourselves and this big beautiful world.
Random thoughts right now.
K byeeeee
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